Parents and Families
At SLU, we encourage parents to provide support for their students throughout the college experience. If your student makes the decision to join a fraternity or sorority, we welcome your involvement throughout their experience.
Here are some helpful hints to consider as your student explores Greek Life:
- Participating in recruitment/intake and joining a fraternity or sorority is going to be a new experience for your student, and they will look for your support throughout the process. You can assist them by researching and learning more about the community, and helping them to process their experiences.
- During the recruitment/intake process, provide support for your student, while allowing them to make their own membership decisions. Ultimately, they need to find the chapter that is the best fit.
- The membership process can involve disappointments. Sometimes a prospective member may feel a connection where a chapter does not. Unfortunately, we cannot guarantee that everyone who is interested will receive an invitation to membership. However, if your student keeps his/her options open, there is a good chance that a Greek chapter can be a rewarding part of their college experience.
- Fraternities and sororities are not for everyone. Your student might look into membership and find that it is not the right fit. Although it may have been an important part of your college and alumni/ae experience, keep in mind your student may decide they connect better with other opportunities.
- Talk with your student about the costs of membership before they join. Discuss who will pay for dues and other chapter-related expenses.
- The Greek Life experience changes over time and fraternities and sororities are different on every campus. If you went to college, Fraternity and Sorority Life probably looks different than it did when you were a student. If you went to SLU, the chapters you were familiar with or involved in may have evolved and changed since you graduated. It is likely that your students experience will be different than your own.
After your student accepts a bid:
- Ask your student to provide you with the name and phone number of the chapter president, new member educator, and chapter advisor. These are important contacts for you to keep on hand.
- If you are assisting your student with the financial costs of membership, ask your student when and how you should expect to receive a bill, how payments are scheduled and processed. Some chapters utilize online billing, while others utilize a paper process. Many one-time dues are paid during the first year, so expect the first year to be the most expensive.
- Initiation is an important time for the new initiates. Be supportive and respectful of this time for your student.
- Attend special weekends for parents and families, as well as special events sponsored by the chapter. It is a great way to take part in the Greek experience.
- Encourage your student to attend programs sponsored by the Greek Community and the Department of Student Development.
Expect to see numerous new t-shirts, photos and Greek gear.
- Encourage your student to be a part of the University community and to take advantage of its many resources and opportunities.
If you have questions or concerns regarding Fraternity and Sorority Life at SLU, contact the Student Involvement Center at 314-977-2805. Check out our FAQs page for Parents.