The Way to Love contains the final flowering of Anthony de Mello's thought, and in it he grapples with the ultimate question of love. In thirty-one meditations, he implores his readers with his usual pithiness to break through illusion, the great obstacle to love. "love springs from awareness," de Mello insists, saying that it is only when we see others as they are that we can begin to really love. This task, however, is not easy. "The most painful act," he continues, "is the act of seeing. But it is in that act of seeing that love is born."