How To Be a Roommate: 5 Steps
Nervous about your future college roommate?
You aren't alone. It's totally normal to be worried about dorm life. Chances are your soon-to-be roomie probably feels the exact same way. Start your college experience off right using these tips for getting along with, well, just about anyone.
Step One: Introduce Yourself
Before you make the big move into the dorms, reach out to your roommate or roommates on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram or Twitter and exchange cell phone numbers or email addresses. Move-in day can be stressful, so getting the introductions out of the way can make the transition a lot smoother.
Step Two: Establish Boundaries
Once you've moved in, sit down with your roommate or roommates and establish some ground rules. You can discuss dorm-room cleaning responsibilities, having friends over, sharing things and much more. You don't have to be bossy, but express yourself and let your roommate know how you feel.
Step Three: Ask Questions
The easiest way for you and your new college roommate or roommates to avoid conflict is to get to know each other. Talk about your likes and dislikes; it will be helpful when living in such tight quarters. You might also find some common interests.
Step Four: Talk About Problems
You're going disagree on some things, but there's no need to tell your whole dorm floor. Talk things over with your roommate first. You can always get help from your residence hall adviser (also called an RA) or residence hall coordinator if you feel uncomfortable addressing the issue alone, but don't let problems pile up and get worse. Expressing your feelings and open communication go a long way in roommate relations.
Step Five: Be Realistic
Don't approach the school year with the idea of becoming best friends with your roommate because it might not happen. There is nothing wrong with creating a lifelong bond with your college roommates, but there is also nothing wrong with just sharing a room. Respecting each other and each other's space will help you get along - and trust us, that's a pretty good deal.
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